Healing Your Grieving Heart After a Cancer Diagnosis : 100 Practical Ideas for Coping, Surviving, and Thriving.

Front Cover -- Title Page -- Half Title -- Copyright -- Dedication -- Contents -- Introduction -- 100 Ideas -- 1. Understand the difference between grief and mourning -- 2. Allow for numbness -- 3. Take an inventory -- 4. Give yourself permission to grieve and mourn -- 5. Love yourself -- 6. Focus on first things first -- 7. Keep a journal -- 8. Understand the six needs of mourning: Need #1. Acknowledge the reality of your diagnosis and prognosis -- 9. Understand the six needs of mourning: Need #2. Embrace the pain of your losses -- 10. Understand the six needs of mourning: Need #3. Remember your past -- 11. Understand the six needs of mourning: Need #4. Incorporate cancer into your self-identity -- 12. Understand the six needs of mourning: Need #5. Search for meaning -- 13. Understand the six needs of mourning: Need #6. Receive ongoing support from others -- 14. Practice patience -- 15. Understand what it means to be "traumatized" -- 16. Nurture hope -- 17. Be kind to your body -- 18. Express your spirituality -- 19. Schedule something that gives you pleasure each and every day -- 20. Learn to check in with yourself -- 21. Make an inventory of survival strategies -- 22. Eat well to stay strong -- 23. Yield to silence and solitude… -- 24. …but do not withdraw altogether -- 25. Be on your own team -- 26. Be honest with the children -- 27. Lean to meditate -- 28. Sleep well -- 29. Enjoy green tea -- 30. Mourn hair loss, too -- 31. Visualize -- 32. Break the silence -- 33. Move -- 34. Keep down excess weight -- 35. Take a deep breath -- 36. Know that you are loved -- 37. Set your intention on optimism -- 38. Honor the Before and the After -- 39. Don't be alarmed by mood swings -- 40. Befriend your fear -- 41. If you feel helpless, talk about it -- 42. If you feel angry, talk about it -- 43. If you feel guilty, talk about it.

44. If you feel stuck, talk about it -- 45. Eat dessert first…and last -- 46. Make love a habit -- 47. Hold that hug for 20 seconds -- 48. Get familiar with online resources -- 49. Find new ways to be intimate -- 50. Know the signs of clinical depression -- 51. Find encouraging people -- 52. Connect with animals -- 53. Tell the story, over and over again if you feel the need -- 54. If you have questions, ask them -- 55. Take things one day at a time -- 56. Drink enough water -- 57. Find bits of beauty in each day -- 58. Try Vitamin C -- 59. Spend time in "thin places" -- 60. Calm chronic inflammation -- 61. Say what you need to say -- 62. Consider complementary therapies -- 63. Simplify your life -- 64. Relieve muscle tension with massage -- 65. Laugh -- 66. Cry -- 67. Take a five-minute spirit break -- 68. Cultivate resilience -- 69. Write letters to be read on a future date -- 70. Tap into your intuition -- 71. Get enough vitamin D -- 72. Drink fresh-squeezed juice -- 73. Don't be alarmed by "griefbursts" -- 74. Live in the Now -- 75. Seek out a spiritual advisor -- 76. Mend fences -- 77. Sigh -- 78. Beware the nocebo effect -- 79. Celebrate World Cancer Day -- 80. Be mindful of anniversaries -- 81. Plant a tree -- 82. Pray -- 83. Make time for music -- 84. Reassess your priorities -- 85. Wear prayer beads -- 86. Watch for warning signs -- 87. Go easy on people who say stupid things -- 88. Clear the clutter -- 89. Make a "bad news" plan -- 90. Wrangle worry -- 91. Catch the bounce -- 92. Live with gratitude and count your blessings -- 93. Hammer out your hopes -- 94. Make goals and plans that have nothing to do with cancer -- 95. Give yourself up to grief -- 96. Beware the snake oil salesman -- 97. If your cancer is recurring, chronic, or terminal -- 98. Unwrap the gifts of cancer -- 99. Understand that your grief will never end.

100. Believe in your capacity to heal and grow through grief -- Our Prayer for You -- The Cancer Mourner's Bill of Rights -- Back Cover.