Why do I have to? A Book for Children Who Find Themselves Frustrated by Everyday Rules -- PREFACE FOR CHILDREN -- Preface for Adults -- 1: Rules that may be Frustrating at Home -- Why do I have to go to school on time? -- Why do I have to wear shoes and a jacket when I go outside? -- Why do I have to sit at the table to eat when I am not hungry? -- Why do I have to rest when I am not tired? -- Why do I have to go to the bathroom when I don't need to? -- Why do I have to share toys if I am still using them? -- Why do I have to turn off the computer or the TV before my game or show is over? -- Why do I have to stop talking about things that I like? -- 2: Rules that may be Frustrating about Friends -- Why do I have to play with my friend all of the time? -- Why do I have to say "thank you" for a present that I do not like? -- Why do I have to go to a friend's house when I would rather stay home? -- Why do I have to let other kids play a game the "wrong" way? -- Why do I have to apologize to other kids for hurting them if they hurt me first? -- Why do I have to listen to other kids talking about things that I think are boring? -- 3: Rules that may be Frustrating about School -- Why do I have to listen to the teacher talking about something that I already know? -- Why do I have to do things that get my hands dirty? -- Why do I have to say "Hello" with words? -- Why do I have to answer only the last question the teacher asked? -- Why do I have to tell my friends that I am no longer playing the game when they can see for themselves? -- Why do I have to ask my teacher if it is OK to leave the room? -- Why do I have to sit at my desk at school when I am doing my work? -- Why do I have to be quiet when I am working? -- Why do I have to explain to an adult why I got into a fight? -- Why do I have to do homework after I have been working in school all day?.

APPENDIX 1: WHAT FRUSTRATES ME AND WHAT MIGHT HELP -- APPENDIX 2: MY GOAL CHART.