COVER -- CONTENTS -- ABOUT THE AUTHOR -- PREFACE -- CHAPTER ONE The heart of the matter -- CHAPTER TWO Freud and the importance of sexuality -- Sexuality is always conflictual -- The libido -- The two currents of sexuality: sensuality and tenderness -- Narcissus -- Eros -- From infantile to perverse sexuality -- Sexuality, love and sublimation -- A limitation in Freud's thinking -- CHAPTER THREE Gender identity -- The advent of gender -- The problem of the intersexed -- The challenge to Money's norms -- Transsexualism -- Gender inflation -- Sexual orientation and gender identity -- Male or female -- Man or woman -- The construction of gender identity -- Rejection of sex assignment -- Acceptance of sex assignment -- CHAPTER FOUR From difference to equality -- The experience of one's own body -- The experience of sexual intercourse -- Woman and mother -- Man and father -- The change in women's status: facilitating factors and remaining obstacles -- Essentialism or constructivism -- CHAPTER FIVE Choice of partner -- The prohibition against incest -- Lovemaps -- Choice of partner's sex as an element of the lovemap -- Heterosexual and homosexual itineraries -- The burning issue of homosexuality -- Homophobia -- Fantasies, acts, identity and status -- Male and female homosexuality -- Homosexuality as initiation -- The couple -- And if we were jackdaws . . .? -- CHAPTER SIX Sexual wanderings -- Perversion, rejection and sin -- Perversion: differences between men and women -- Prostitution -- Pornography -- CHAPTER SEVEN Love -- Being loved in order to love -- The inevitability of ambivalence -- Eros -- Philia -- Agapè -- CHAPTER EIGHT Sex makes the world go round -- Advertising our gender -- Nature and culture -- The torments of sexuality -- Forgetting sex -- References -- INDEX.