Acknowledgments -- Prologue -- Introduction -- 1 -- What Causes Relationship Sabotage? -- 2 -- The Process of Healing -- 3 -- Insecurity: "Will You Love Me Forever?" -- 4 -- Needing to Control: "I Run the Show" -- 5 -- Fear of Intimacy: "I Need You, but Not That Close" -- 6 -- Needing to Win: "I Dare You to Challenge Me" -- 7 -- Pessimism: "If You Don't Expect Anything, You Won't Be Disappointed" -- 8 -- Needing to Be Center Stage: "Pay Attention to Me" -- 9 -- Addictions: "I've Got to Have That" -- 10 -- Martyrdom: "Maybe It'll Be My Turn Someday" -- 11 -- Defensiveness: "It's Not My Fault!" -- 12 -- Trust Breakers: "I Never Really Agreed to That" -- 13 -- Revisiting the Seven Steps to Recovery -- 14 -- Troubleshooting: Questions and Answers -- Suggested Reading.