Acknowledgments -- Introduction -- Part 1 -- The Acceptance and Commitment Approach -- 1 -- Living a Mindful and Vital Relationship -- Part 2 -- Values and the Vital Relationship (Values) -- 2 -- Authenticity -- 3 -- Integrity -- 4 -- Faithfulness -- 5 -- Passion -- 6 -- Kindness -- 7 -- Love -- Part 3 -- Accepting Yourself and Your Partner (Acceptance) -- 8 -- Acceptance in Relationships -- 9 -- Expectations and Disappointments -- 10 -- Dependence and Independence -- 11 -- Quirks -- 12 -- Aging and Other Physical Changes -- 13 -- Acceptance and Family -- Part 4 -- Moving into Openness (Defusion) -- 14 -- The Adventure of It All -- 15 -- Taking a Step Back -- 16 -- Fairness -- 17 -- Humor -- 18 -- Letting Go of Power and Control -- 19 -- The Power of Slow -- Part 5 -- Being Present to One Another (Present Moment) -- 20 -- Mindfulness -- 21 -- Finding Beauty -- 22 -- Calm in the Midst of the Storm -- 23 -- Playfulness -- 24 -- Flow -- Part 6 -- Shifting Your Perspective (Self-as-Context) -- 25 -- A Place for Empathy -- 26 -- Growth -- 27 -- Sacred Space -- 28 -- Being -- 29 -- Enlightenment -- 30 -- Relating from a Place of Wholeness -- Part 7 -- Doing What You Care About (Committed Action) -- 31 -- Committed Action in Relationships -- 32 -- Courageous Loving -- 33 -- Trusting and Being Trustworthy -- 34 -- The Power of Forgiveness -- 35 -- Committed Friends -- 36 -- Romantically Committed -- Conclusion -- References.