The Student EQedge: Emotional Intelligence and Your Academic and Personal Success -- Copyright -- Contents -- Preface -- Acknowledgments -- About the Authors -- Part 1: Introduction -- 1: Emotional Intelligence: Here to Stay -- Redefining Intelligence, Achievement, and Success -- What Is Success? -- Why CEOs Fail -- Your Best and Worst Teacher -- What Are the Differences Between IQ and EQ? -- Millionaire's Opinions about EQ and IQ -- IQ Is Stable -- EQ Can Develop -- What EQ Is Not -- Where in the Brain Is Your Emotional Intelligence? -- What Are the Building Blocks of EQ? -- Model of Emotional Intelligence (EI) -- Measuring Emotional Intelligence in Students -- The EQ-i 2.0. -- Higher Education and Youth Versions -- Gender and Race as Measured by the EQ-i: Are There Differences? -- Increasing Your Emotional Intelligence -- 2: Class Closed and the ABCDE Model -- Class Closed -- The ABCDEs -- Changing Hot Feelings to Cool Feelings -- The Major Musts and the Absolute Shoulds -- Thinking Errors -- Tune In to What Your Body Is Telling You -- A Happy Ending -- Part 2: The Self-Perception Realm -- 3: Emotional Self-Awareness -- Don't Bother Me -- Know Thyself -- Why Emotional Self-Awareness? -- The Tyrannical Instructor -- Hot Buttons -- Emotional Self-Awareness Gone Missing in Action -- Become Aware of Others' Reactions to Your Behavior -- Reflection Questions -- 4: Self-Regard -- Setting the Bar Too High -- Self-Regard Is Not Self-Esteem -- Like Yourself, Warts and All -- Don't Bite Off More than You Can Chew -- Confidence, Not Cockiness -- The Components of Self-Regard: Awareness, Acceptance, and Attitude -- Why Self-Regard? -- Reflection Questions -- 5: Self-Actualization -- Many Interests -- Set Action-Oriented Goals -- Do What You Love -- Let Your Internal Light Shine -- Live Life to the Fullest -- Strike a Balance -- Reflection Questions.

Part 3: The Self-Expression Realm -- 6: Emotional Expression -- Emotions Seep Out (Even If We Try to Hide Them) -- How Emotional Expression Plays Out in the Public Eye -- Expression of Authentic and Congruent Emotions -- Expression of Noncongruent Emotions -- Do Males Express Their Emotions Enough? -- A Note About Anger -- Reflection Questions -- 7: Independence -- Can You Help Me? -- The Buck Stops with You -- Be Decisive -- The Many Facets of Independence -- Pursue New Interests -- Making Your Decisions Your Own -- Can You Be Too Independent? -- Reflection Questions -- 8: Assertiveness -- Speak Up or Get Passed Over -- What Is Meant by Assertiveness? -- Assertiveness Is Not Aggression -- Using Assertiveness at School -- Overcoming Passiveness and Passive-Aggressive Behavior -- Indirect Assertiveness -- The Benefits of Assertiveness -- Success: Achieving Your Goals -- Reflection Questions -- Part 4: The Interpersonal Realm -- 9: Interpersonal Relationships -- Too Much Fun or Too Serious? -- Key Skills for Better Relationships -- Making and Keeping Friends -- Reflection Questions -- 10: Empathy -- I'm Sorry, Coach -- What Empathy Is and What It Is Not -- Put Emotions on Hold -- Ask Excavating Questions -- Focus on the Other's Subjective Perspective -- Reflection Questions -- 11: Social Responsibility -- Social Responsibility Is Caring and "Moral" -- The Queen of Hearts -- Corporate Social Responsibility -- Helping Others Helps Yourself -- But What About Group Projects? -- Seinfeld and the Good Samaritan -- Reflection Questions -- Part 5: The Decision-Making Realm -- 12: Reality Testing -- Overreacting -- Be Objective -- Don't Fear the Worst . . . -- . . . But Take Off Those Rose-Colored Glasses -- Some Common Problems Students Face with Reality Testing -- Catastrophizing, Predicting Doom and Gloom -- And About Those Rose-Colored Glasses.

Reflection Questions -- 13: Problem Solving -- Same Problem, Different Strategies -- Six Steps for Solving Problems -- Externalize, Visualize, and Simplify -- Using Emotion and Innovation to Solve Problems -- Reflection Questions -- 14: Impulse Control -- "But Impulsiveness Helps Me" -- Look Before You Leap -- The Impulse Gate -- The Marshmallow Test -- Managing Your Impulses -- Reflection Questions -- Part 6: The Stress Management Realm -- 15: Flexibility -- More Business, Please -- Yesterday's Leaders -- Today's Leaders -- Flexibility Can Be Learned -- Be Open to Change -- Why Be Flexible? -- Reflection Questions -- 16: Stress Tolerance -- Too Much Stress -- The Evolution of Stress -- The Indicators of Stress -- Keep Your Perspective -- Don't Be Your Own Worst Enemy -- Dealing with Stress -- Reflection Questions -- 17: Optimism -- Lessons from a Candy Man -- Turn the Three Ps Around -- Flexible Optimism Versus Blind Optimism -- Give Yourself a Break -- Advantages of Being Optimistic -- Reflection Questions -- Part 7: General Well-Being -- 18: Happiness -- Do You Enjoy Life? -- Nature or Nurture? -- Money Does Not (Necessarily) Equal Happiness -- Happiness Comes from the Inside Out -- The Wonders of Flow -- Benefits of Happiness -- Reflection Questions -- Part 8: Putting It All Together -- 19: EQ and Student Success -- EQ and College Graduation -- Does Emotional Intelligence Help You Get Through College? -- Can EI Help First-Year College Students? -- Can College Students Increase Their Emotional Intelligence? -- Are You an Adult Learner? -- What About Other Cultures-and High School Students? -- Can EI Be Used to Prevent Problems for Students? -- EQ and the Teacher -- EQ and the School Principal -- 20: EQ and Work Success -- EQ and the Job Challenged -- EQ and Air Force Recruiters -- Top Guns -- EQ and the Oval Office -- "He Shoots, He Scores!".

Do You Want to Be a Better Athlete? -- Emotional Intelligence and the Financial World -- EQ and Journalists -- EQ Goes to Court -- EQ and the Power to Heal -- EQ and Law Enforcement -- EQ and Sales Talent -- EQ and Teamwork -- EQ and Leading a Diverse Team -- 21: The Role of EQ in Leadership -- Young Presidents -- EI and High-Performing Leaders -- EI and the Pillars of Leadership -- EQ and the CEO -- Lessons from Reality TV -- Leading a Non-Profit -- Identifying Future Leaders -- Emotional Intelligence and Leadership Style -- 22: EQ, Lifestyle, Healthy Living, and Relationships -- Is Emotional Intelligence Good for Your Health? -- Are You Getting the Amount of Exercise You Need? -- Are You Getting Enough Sleep? -- EQ and Relationship Bliss -- Dealing with Trauma -- EQ, Cultural Sensitivity, and the Medicine Wheel -- 23: What's Next? -- References -- Index.