Contents -- Introduction -- Part I: How Online Dating Services Really Work -- 1 First You Find the Site, Then You Find the Love -- The Name Brands of Online Dating -- Affinity Dating Sites -- Lifestyle Sites to Match Your Lifestyle -- Very Special Friends Await -- Old School Personals -- Things to Expect on All Dating Sites -- Site Specific -- 2 Searching for Love, or Knowing What You're Looking For -- Using Online Dating Search Engines -- Thinking about How Your Profile Will Be Searched -- Working the Hot List -- Summary -- 3 Baby, Now That I've Found You-Sending Winks, Icebreakers, and E-mails -- Using Winks and Icebreakers -- E-mail Communications: Say It Loud-I Subscribe and I'm Proud -- Mastering the E-mail Process -- Summary -- 4 Subscribing and Taking Advantage of Free Trial Subscription Offers -- Understanding the Free Trial Period -- Using the Service after You Cancel the Trial Offer -- Circumventing the System -- Subscribing and Canceling -- Summary -- Part II: Presenting Yourself Online -- 5 Putting Your Best Face Forward -- …It's All about How You Look -- Photos That Work Best -- Image Editing Can Help Your Pictures -- Photos to Avoid -- Summary -- 6 Taking Pictures of Yourself for Your Online Profile -- Starting with a Digital Camera -- Getting Ready to Take Your Picture -- Taking Good Pictures of Yourself -- Working with a Film Camera -- Summary -- 7 Using (Not Abusing) Photo Editing Software -- Cropping and File Format Changes with Windows Paint -- Making Masterpieces with Picasa2 -- Going All the Way with Photoshop -- Summary -- 8 Truth in Advertising: Reviewing Your Message -- Turning Up Your Amp to Eleven -- Using a Current Photo Is Essential -- Using a Photo from a Magazine or Copyrighted Source -- Changing Your Looks -- Looking Like You Do Everyday -- Revealing Details -- Summary.

9 Writing Profiles and E-mails-Watch What You Say -- Say What You Want, Just Spell It Right -- Online Writing Rules -- Bad Profile/Good Profile -- How and When to Write That First E-mail -- E-mail Etiquette -- How to Say No -- Everything Seems So Perfect -- Summary -- Part III: Learning about Others You Meet Online -- 10 Edited Photos: Spotting the Phonies -- Understanding Image Editing -- Making Old Photos Look New -- Spotting Retouching -- Reserving Judgment on Editing Photos -- Summary -- 11 Reading Photos: Clues to Age and Locations -- Learning to Read Photos to Read People -- Looking at the Environment -- Summary -- 12 How You Write Should Reflect Who You Say You Are -- Assess the Overall Writing Style -- Education and Writing Skills -- Life Experience -- Does Their Picture Match What They Say? -- Matching Up the Photo with the Profile -- Summary -- 13 Finding Out More about Your Potential Date -- Things You Should Always Ask a Potential Date -- Things We Suggest You Ask a Potential Date -- Asking the Tough Questions -- Summary -- 14 Background Checks: Additional Peace of Mind -- Checking the Facts -- Digging for Dirt -- Finding Other Information -- Using What You Find -- Summary -- Part IV: Power Dating: Getting the Word Out -- 15 Creating Template E-mails Using Your Word Processor -- Writing Template Letters -- Writing Templates That Work -- Summary -- 16 Creating Custom Letters for Outstanding Results -- Making Small, Quick Changes to Template Letters -- Adding More Detailed Hooks -- Creating More Complex Template Letters -- Summary -- 17 Taking Advantage of Free Trial Periods -- Getting the Most from the Free Trial Period. -- Crafting Your "Contact Me" E-mail -- Tracking Your E-mails -- Evaluating the Free Trial Period -- Summary -- Part V: Finding the Real Deal -- 18 The Real Thing?-Spotting the Truth and Making It Yours.

If Someone Sounds Too Good to Be True -- How to Tell if They're Truthful When E-mailing -- Seeing the Truth -- Summary -- 19 Making Contact: Take It Safe -- Take Security Precautions at Each Stage of Contact -- Meeting Live and In Person -- Setting Up the Date-Safety Strategies -- During the Date-How to Be Both Flirty and Cautious -- Where Do We Go from Coffee? -- Summary -- 20 Dating Technology 101: Getting Tested for HIV and STDs -- The Testing Process -- Using Home HIV Tests -- Using Home STD Tests -- Keeping on the Safe Side -- Summary -- 21 Tricky Situations: Dating While Involved Elsewhere -- Telling the Truth Is Easy -- Shopping -- Hiding Your Love -- Looking for Friends Who Understand -- Summary -- Conclusion: Truth, Lies, and Online Dating -- Embracing the Truth -- Avoiding the Lies -- Being Loved for Who You Are -- The Road Ahead -- Index -- A -- B -- C -- D -- E -- F -- G -- H -- I -- J -- L -- M -- N -- O -- P -- Q -- R -- S -- T -- U -- W -- Y -- Z.