Dyslexics : Dating, Marriage and Parenthood.
Title:
Dyslexics : Dating, Marriage and Parenthood.
Author:
Alexander-Passe, Neil.
ISBN:
9781619425293
Personal Author:
Physical Description:
1 online resource (296 pages)
Series:
Dyslexia. An Academic Perspective (Series Editor: Neil Alexander-Passe (London, UK))
Contents:
DYSLEXICS: DATING, MARRIAGE AND PARENTHOOD -- DYSLEXICS: DATING, MARRIAGE AND PARENTHOOD -- LIBRARY OF CONGRESS CATALOGING-IN-PUBLICATION DATA -- TABLE OF CONTENTS -- Chapter 1: INTRODUCTION -- My Motivation for this Book -- Who is this Book Targeted to? -- What Is Dyslexia? -- Curing Dyslexia -- Severe to Mild Dyslexia: What's the Difference? -- The Young Dyslexic - Dreaming of Being Normal -- Letting your Children Fail is the Best Way to Get the Help they Need -- Diagnosing Dyslexia or Identifying the Learning Difficulty -- Help in Schools -- How Dyslexics Misunderstand what Is Expected from them in Educational Environments -- Non-dyslexic Parents Finding out their Child is Dyslexic -- Dyslexics Dating -- Being Married to a Dyslexic -- Dyslexia and Crime -- Dyslexic and Routines -- Dyslexics Choosing to Be Parents - A Moral Dilemma? -- Being a Dyslexic Parent and the Journey -- Are Dyslexics Good Parents? -- Facing School again -- Emotional Manifestations from Dyslexia -- Dyslexics, Avoidance, Denial in the Workplace -- Dyslexia, Workplace and Stigma -- Dyslexics and Success in the Workplace -- Appendixes -- Summing up -- My own Education -- Chapter 2: WHAT IS DYSLEXIA? - EMPIRICAL REVIEW -- Chapter 3: WHAT IS DYSLEXIA? -- Why me? Blaming Dyslexia -- It's Negative -- It's Positive -- It's both Positive and Negative -- What does Dyslexia Mean to you? -- Dyslexia as a Label -- Unfair Advantage -- Chapter Overview -- DYSLEXIA AND STIGMA OR LACK OF KNOWLEDGE? -- CURES FOR DYSLEXIA -- Are Dyslexic Genes Bad? Are they Malfunctioned? -- Should we Test for Dyslexia in the Womb (Gene Repair Therapy)? -- Should Dyslexics Attempt to Dilute Dyslexic Sperm/Eggs to Reduce the Chances of Having Dyslexic Children? Does it Work? Is it Logical? -- Taking a Cure Pill? -- Chapter 4: CHILDHOOD -- FEELING DIFFERENT.
What Is Normal? Who Is Normal? And Who Is Abnormal? Do Dyslexics Crave to Be Accepted and Understood? -- DYSLEXICS AND THE FAMILY -- How do Dyslexics Relate to their Families? -- HOW CHILD DYSLEXICS COPE -- How Dyslexics do Cope at School? -- Task-Based Coping -- Emotional-Based Coping -- Avoidance-Based Coping -- Hiding in the Classroom -- Using Friends in Class -- Perfectionism -- Humour and Being the Class Clown -- Being Bored so Acting up -- Daydreaming -- Equalling Activities -- Being Proactive to Find Learning Support -- REACTIONS BY THE SCHOOL -- Humiliation -- Bullying by Teachers -- It Must be Frustrating Teaching Dyslexics -- Bullying from the Classroom to the Playground -- Teachers didn't See or Understand my Difficulties -- The Right Classroom Support -- The Wrong Classroom Support -- Alternative Teaching Methods -- Parents Believing their Child's Teacher, not their Child -- School Reports -- EMOTIONAL REACTIONS AS CHILDREN -- Feeling an Outsider to your Family, Sibling Comparison, and Thinking you were Adopted -- Faking Illness to Avoid Tests -- Truancy and Running away from Home -- Bullying by Peers -- Regression as a Child -- Self-harm as a Child -- Suicide Ideation as a Child -- Dyslexia as a Trigger to Depression -- Chapter 5: ADULTHOOD -- FEELING DIFFERENT -- BEING AN ADULT -- Personality as an Adult -- Resilience -- Difficulties as an Adult Dyslexic -- Forgetting Things -- Grafter/Unfair World/Persistence -- HOW ADULT DYSLEXICS COPE -- Avoiding Reading and Writing -- Perfectionist -- Humour -- EMOTIONAL HEALTH -- Anger -- Getting Things Wrong and Self-Blame -- Frustration -- Withdrawal into a Bubble -- Chapter 6: COMMUNICATION PROBLEMS AND RELATIONSHIPS -- The Dyslexic's Perspective -- Communicating with a Dyslexic - The Other Side of the Coin -- Chapter 7: DYSLEXIA AND DATING.
Does School Experience Impact on the Dyslexic's Self-esteem for Dating to Be Possible? -- Should Dyslexics only Date other Dyslexics? -- Are Dyslexics True to themselves by Hiding their Dyslexic Difficulties when Dating? -- Dyslexics Dating -- Dating Dyslexics - the other Side of the Coin -- Chapter 8: DYSLEXICS AND MARRIAGE -- The Dyslexic's Perspective -- Marrying a Dyslexic - The other Side of the Coin -- Are Long-term Partners of Dyslexics Helpful/sympathetic? -- Chapter 9: PARENTHOOD -- CHOSING TO BE A PARENT -- As a Dyslexic, would you Want your Children to Suffer Like you at School? -- Is it your Moral Duty to Stop further Hardship in the World by not Having a Dyslexic Child? -- Is it Right to Bring Dyslexic Children into a World where Education Is Unsuited to them? -- Are Dyslexics Happy Having a Child who Is Dyslexic? -- Will my Children Be like Me? Do I Want them to Be like me? -- Would I Want any Child of Mine to Experience what I Had? -- How Can I Affect the Future of my Dyslexic Children? -- UNDIAGNIOSED DYSLEXIC PARENTS AND DENIAL -- Covering up their Difficulties? -- HOW DO DYSLEXIC PARENTS RELATE TO THEIR CHILDREN? -- Is it Better for a Dyslexic Parent to Have a Dyslexic or Non-dyslexic Child? -- How do Dyslexic Parents Relate to Having non-dyslexic Children? -- DYSLEXIC PARENTS - HOW THEIR CHILDHOOD STILL AFFECTS THEM -- Did your Parents Recognise your Difficulties/dyslexia? -- Believing their Child, Not their Child's Teacher -- No Parental Support -- Supportive Parents -- Good Intentions, but the Wrong Support -- Over-Protecting Parents -- Disappointing Parents -- IS PARENTING STYLE AN IMPORTANT FACTOR? -- Do Dyslexic and Non-dyslexic Parents Bring up Children the Same Way? -- Modelling -- Cause and Effect -- MAKING YOUR DYSLEXIC CHILD RESILIENT.
How to Make your Dyslexic Child Resilient, in the Face of Continued Failure at School? -- Treating Pessimism and Helplessness -- Proposed Interventions -- DYSLEXIC PARENTS AND THEIR CHILD'S HOMEWORK -- Should Parents Firstly Cover up for their Children's Lack of Academic Ability? -- Should Parents Have the Right to be Ashamed of their Child's Lack of Abilities? Does it Reflect badly on them as People? -- DYSLEXIC PARENTS AND REACTIONS TO SCHOOL -- Dyslexics Having Dyslexic Children -- Dyslexics Having Non-dyslexic Children -- Chapter 10: DYSLEXICS, SCHOOL AND POST TRAUMATIC STRESS DISORDER (PTSD) -- Adult Dyslexics Resenting their own Teachers -- Why do Dyslexics Suffer from PTSD when Entering their Children's School? -- How should Dyslexics Cope with PTSD relating to their Child's Education? -- Chapter 11: CAREERS AND THE WORKPLACE -- INFERIORITY COMPLEX -- Not being Lawyers and Accountants, but Road Sweepers -- CAREER ADVICE FOR DYSLEXICS? -- Working with their Abilities and not their Disabilities - Putting Ability First? -- DYSLEXICS AND FURTHER EDUCATION -- How do Adult Dyslexics Cope Re-entering School to Gain Additional Qualifications or Regaining Literacy/numeracy? -- DYSLEXICS AND HIGHER EDUCATION/UNIVERSITY -- How do Adult Dyslexics Cope at University? -- DYSLEXIA AND THE WORKPLACE -- Applying for Jobs -- Success in the Workplace -- Goodness of Fit -- Resigning Yourself to a Dead-end Job -- Should Dyslexics Cover up their Dyslexia at Work? -- Social Construct: Is Dyslexia only a Disability at School? -- Is Dyslexia a Taboo Subject? -- Being Rejected or Rejecting others and Discrimination at Work -- Disclosure of your Dyslexia -- Rejecting the World -- Working for yourself -- Chapter 12: SUCCESSFUL AND UNSUCCESSFUL DYSLEXICS -- Successful Dyslexics -- Unsuccessful Dyslexics -- WHAT MOTIVATES DYSLEXICS TO SUCCEED.
If it Was Easy for Dyslexics, Maybe they Wouldn't Achieve so Much? -- Post-traumatic Growth -- Chapter 13: SPOUSES/PARTNERS OF DYSLEXICS (A RESEARCH STUDY) -- Empirical Review -- DATING -- What Was it like Dating a Dyslexic? -- When did they Disclose their Dyslexia to you? And why? -- Did they Hide their Dyslexic Difficulties? -- Is their Quirky Character Due to their Dyslexia Attractive? -- Did Dyslexia Affect the Dating Relationship? -- Difficulty with Short-term Memory -- COMMUNICATION PROBLEMS -- A Social Liability? -- Difficulty Pronouncing Hard Words? -- Saying the Wrong Thing in Shops -- MARRIAGE -- Is Dyslexia more Prevalent more Frustrating in a Marriage? -- Sharing the Household Chores? -- Piles of Paper -- Managing a Dyslexic Partners? -- An Additional Child? -- Is it Easy Being Married to a Dyslexic? -- Do they Read for Pleasure? -- PARENTHOOD -- Did their Dyslexia Affect your Decision to Have Children? -- Who Deals with the School and Homework? -- Is Homework a Stressful Time with a Dyslexic Child? -- Finding out your Child Is Dyslexic -- A Special Bond between Dyslexic Parent and Dyslexic Child -- Has Having a Dyslexic Children/husband Affected your Knowledge of Dyslexia and Career Choice? -- How Is Going into School to Meet your Children's Teachers? -- Are you Optimistic about your Dyslexic Children's Future? -- CAREER/SUCCESS -- Has your Partner's Childhood/schooling Affected him? -- Has Dyslexia Affected their Careers/potential Prospects? -- DISCUSSION -- Chapter 14: DISCUSSION AND CONCLUSION -- Chapter 15: SUGGESTED HINTS AND TIPS -- Dating and Dyslexia -- Marriage and Dyslexia -- If your Child Is Dyslexic -- If your Child Is not Dyslexic -- Having Both Dyslexic and Non-dyslexic Children -- APPENDICES -- APPENDIX 1: DYSLEXIC DEFENCE MECHANISMS -- Parenting Style -- Transitional Factors -- Are these Factors Exclusive?.
Choosing Emotional and Behavioural Defence Mechanisms?.
Abstract:
This new and innovative book aims to investigate adult dyslexics and their long-term relationships, along with their journey through parenthood. The book begins by investigating adult dyslexics and their childhoods, looking at their emotional and behavioural coping strategies. These adults, with others from a website for adult dyslexics, look at the impact childhood trauma has on dating, then on marriage/long-term partners. A commissioned study interviewing long-term partners of dyslexics brings new perspective to understanding how dyslexia affects relationships and how they interact as parents. What seems clear from combining the many perspectives is that dyslexia has a distinctive effect on relationships, with communication being one of the greatest problems. Non-dyslexic partners seem to be attracted by the quirkiness that comes with dyslexia, and the dyslexic ability to think out of the box/being divergent thinkers. However the effects of dyslexia can also bring difficulties in reading social non-verbal clues, an inability to express oneself coherently, and the inabilities to converse with peers in general conversation. The research found that many dyslexic parents feel inhibited by school homework and interactions with school, creating an unbalanced weight on non-dyslexic partners to manage not only the home and finances, but all dealings with school. This extra burden can have a heavy impact on the survival of the relationship, and 'social exchange theory' is investigated with dyslexics. Dyslexia and careers are also investigated, with 'post-traumatic growth theory' used to explain why many dyslexics overcome extreme trauma in mainstream education, but still attain post-school at university and in business. This is an important theory that explains their resilience and motivation to succeed. The book ends with a comprehensive hints and tips
section for dyslexics and their non-dyslexic partners to aid relationships, marriage and parenthood with both dyslexic and non-dyslexic children.
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Electronic reproduction. Ann Arbor, Michigan : ProQuest Ebook Central, 2017. Available via World Wide Web. Access may be limited to ProQuest Ebook Central affiliated libraries.
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