Cover -- Title -- Copyright -- Contents -- Foreword -- Preface -- Acknowledgements -- Introduction -- Who the book is for -- Dementia - a bewildering condition -- What is dementia? -- What is a carer? -- How this book came into being -- Living with Loss -- Despatches from the Battlefield -- Keeping in Touch, Letting Go -- The challenge ahead -- Love stories with a difference -- Notes -- Living with Loss -- 1 A Big Enough Supply of Love -- 2 We Don't Know What is Going Through her Mind -- 3 The Departing Light -- 4 Walking on Thin Ice -- Notes -- 5 The Most Difficult Decision of my Life -- Note -- 6 We Learn to Enter her World -- Origins -- Trials and tribulations -- Getting the right treatment and care -- Accessing support -- The right way to eat Peking duck -- Spirituality -- Hopes and wishes -- Note -- 7 Half a World Away -- October 2007: Aqua Calientes, Peru -- January 2008 -- January 2008 -- February 2008 -- February 2008 -- October 2007: Machu Picchu -- Notes -- 8 Have You Seen my Pat? -- 9 Feisty Love -- 10 Glimpses of Glory on a Long, Grey Road -- Note -- 11 Our Mum Had To Be the Man of the House -- 12 On the Contrary -- Notes -- 13 Family Matters -- Note -- 14 Back and Forth -- 15 A Very Important Moustache -- Note -- Despatches from the Battlefield -- 16 This Has Gone Beyond my Mother -- Note -- 17 Rage, Rage -- 18 Forever in my Thoughts -- Note -- 19 A Sister's Story -- Notes -- 20 Surely the World has Changed? -- Notes -- 21 Look Back in Anger -- Note -- 22 Cracks in the System -- 23 Strained to the Limit -- 24 Break on Through to the Other Side -- 25 Rocking the Boat -- Note -- 26 The Significant Other -- Notes -- 27 An Instruction Manual for Keeping your Mind -- Notes -- Keeping in Touch, Letting Go -- 28 When Words Fail -- 29 The End of the Story -- Notes -- 30 State of Grace -- Notes -- Glossary -- Recommended Reading.

Understanding dementia -- Carers' experiences -- People with dementia in their own words -- Resources from Alzheimer's Society -- Helpful Organisations -- England and across the UK -- Northern Ireland -- Scotland -- Wales -- Republic of Ireland -- The Contributors -- What is for dementia?.