Acknowledgments -- Introduction -- part 1 -- Dialing Down Distress -- chapter 1 -- Understanding Your Anxiety -- chapter 2 -- Recognizing Your Anxiety Triggers and Plugging the Dam -- chapter 3 -- Lowering Your Baseline Level of Anxiety: The Daily Stress Inoculation -- part 2 -- Connecting with the One You Love -- chapter 4 -- Understanding Your Partner -- chapter 5 -- Changing How You Handle Conflict -- chapter 6 -- Increasing Compassion, Empathy, and Connection -- part 3 -- Taking It to the Next Level -- chapter 7 -- Moving toward Healthy Interdependence -- chapter 8 -- The Wise Relationship -- chapter 9 -- Maintaining the Fruits of Your Labor -- appendix A -- Tips for Nonanxious Partners -- appendix B -- Exercise for Nonanxious Partners-­Soften Judgment, Access Appreciation -- appendix C -- Anxious in Love-­ The Book in Sixty Seconds -- appendix D -- Resources -- References.