Book Cover -- Title -- Copyright -- Contents -- Introduction -- The purpose of this book -- The need for honesty -- Achieving the goal of honesty -- What is it about men? -- Are all men immature? -- Are men the only ones who behave in an emotionally immature way? -- What's a woman to do? -- Stay and put up with it -- Leave the relationship -- Stay and make the best of a bad situation -- Stay but develop emotional independence -- The structure of the book -- Everyday situations -- 1. When you want some answers -- Men are such boys -- 2. When the man in your life isachild -- Suggestions for action -- 3. When you feel like his mother -- Suggestions for action -- Boys will be boys -- 4. Trying to improve communication when you are the only one trying -- Suggestions for action -- 5. Longing for meaningful, stimulating conversation -- Suggestions for action -- 6. When you never know what your partner thinks or feels -- Suggestions for action -- 7. When you are the butt of his "jokes" -- Suggestions for action -- 8. When you are made to feel invisible -- Suggestions for action -- 9. When you are always the one who is wrong -- Suggestions for action -- 10. When you sense you are being lied to -- Suggestions for action -- 11. Always waiting for the "right" moment to talk to him -- Suggestions for action -- 12. When you are constantly told you are mad (and half believe it) -- 13. When you feel you have to keep your anger to yourself -- Repression of anger -- Suppression of anger -- Expression of anger -- Boy-power -- 14. Living with a bully -- Suggestions for action -- 15. When you are the victim of physical abuse -- Suggestions for action -- 16. When you see your partner's behaviour emerging in your son -- Suggestions for action -- 17. When you are the victim of sexual abuse -- Suggestions for action -- 18. When you have sex to keep the peace.

Suggestions for action -- 19. Being abandoned after sex -- Suggestions for action -- 20. When you are a victim of sexual harassment in your own home -- Suggestions for action -- 21. When you discover your partner has sexually abused your child -- Suggestions for action -- 22. When no one believes you -- Suggestions for action -- 23. Discovering your partner's stash of pornography -- Suggestions for action -- 24. When he refuses to discuss it -- Suggestions for action -- Can't live with him, can't live without him -- 25. When you suspect your partner is having an affair -- Suggestions for action -- 26. When you discover your partner is having an affair -- Suggestions for action -- 27. Realising you have been surrounded by lies and deceit for a long time -- Suggestions for action -- 28. When you lie awake at night going over and over conversations in your mind -- Suggestions for action -- 29. When you are overcome with anxiety/panic -- Suggestions for action -- 30. When you live every day with a gnawing feeling deep in the pit of your stomach -- Suggestions for action -- 31. Knowing you can neither live with him nor live without him -- Suggestions for action -- Living with Mr Nice Guy -- 32. When friends and family tell you how lucky you are -- Suggestions for action -- 33. When you are told that his behaviour is your responsibility -- Suggestions for action -- 34. Living with a man who puts on a good show for others -- Suggestions for action -- Woman-Self: becoming strong, growing stronger -- 35. When your problems seem to go on and on -- 36. When you feel burdened with guilt -- Suggestions for action -- 37. When you struggle to forgive -- Suggestions for action -- 38. When your self-esteem needs a boost -- Suggestions for action -- 39. When you are terrified of being alone -- Suggestions for action -- 40. Finding the courage to live assertively.

Suggestions for action -- 41. Becoming strong, growing stronger -- Afterword.