Contents -- Introduction -- Basic Skills -- 1 -- Listening -- 2 -- Expressing Feelings and Scripting Needs -- 3 -- Reciprocal Reinforcement -- Advanced Skills -- 4 -- Clean Communication -- 5 -- Identifying and Changing Cognitive Distortions -- 6 -- Negotiation -- 7 -- Problem Solving -- Anger and Conflict -- 8 -- Assessing and Changing Aversive Strategies -- 9 -- Coping with Anger -- 10 -- Coping with an Angry Partner -- 11 -- Time-Out -- Understanding and Changing What Goes Wrong -- 12 -- Identifying Schemas About Your Partner -- 13 -- Old Tapes: Separating Your Partner from Your Parents -- 14 -- Coping with Your Defenses -- 15 -- Identifying Your Couple System -- 16 -- Intervening in Your System -- 17 -- Expectations and Rules -- 18 -- Acceptance and Commitment for Couples -- Bibliography.