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Love Me, Don't Leave Me : Overcoming Fear of Abandonment and Building Lasting, Loving Relationships.
Title:
Love Me, Don't Leave Me : Overcoming Fear of Abandonment and Building Lasting, Loving Relationships.
Author:
Skeen, Michelle.
ISBN:
9781608829538
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Physical Description:
1 online resource (202 pages)
Contents:
Foreword -- Introduction -- Chapter 1 -- Don't Leave Me! -- Understanding Your Fear of Abandonment -- Chapter 2 -- What Do I Believe? -- Assessing Your Core Beliefs -- Chapter 3 -- What's Getting in My Way? -- Mind and Relationship Traps -- Chapter 4 -- How Do I Move Forward? -- Staying Present with Mindfulness -- Chapter 5 -- What Do I Value? -- Motivation for Change -- Chapter 6 -- What Was I Thinking? -- Understanding Your Thoughts -- Chapter 7 -- Why Do I Feel This Way? -- Managing Your Emotions -- Chapter 8 -- What Am I Doing? -- Changing Your Behavior -- Chapter 9 -- What Do I Say? -- New Communication Skills -- Chapter 10 -- I'm Dating! Now What? -- Quick Tips and Strategies for New Relationships -- Appendix -- Attachment Styles -- References.
Abstract:
Everyone thrives on love, comfort, and the safety of family, friends, and  community. But if you are denied these basic comforts early in life, whether through a lack of physical affection or emotional bonding, you may develop intense fears of abandonment that can last well into adulthood-fears so powerful that they can actually cause you to push people away. If you suffer from fears of abandonment, you may have underlying feelings of anger, shame, fear, anxiety, depression, and grief. These emotions are intense and painful, and when they surface they can lead to a number of negative behaviors, such as jealousy, clinging, and emotional blackmail. In Love Me, Don't Leave Me, therapist Michelle Skeen combines acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), schema therapy, and dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT) to help you identify the root of your fears. In this book you'll learn how schema coping behaviors-deeply entrenched and automatic behaviors rooted in childhood experiences and fears-can take over and cause you to inadvertently sabotage your relationships. By recognizing these coping behaviors and understanding their cause, you will not only gain powerful insights into your own mind, but also into the minds of those around you. If you are ready to break the self-fulfilling cycle of mistrust, clinginess, and heartbreak and start building lasting, trusting relationships, this book will be your guide.
Local Note:
Electronic reproduction. Ann Arbor, Michigan : ProQuest Ebook Central, 2017. Available via World Wide Web. Access may be limited to ProQuest Ebook Central affiliated libraries.
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