Front Cover -- Title Page -- Half Title -- Copyright -- Dedication -- Contents -- Introduction -- A note to bereavement caregivers -- Truth One: You must say hello before you can say goodbye -- Saying hello to love, saying hello to loss -- Saying hello to the physical reality of death -- Saying hello to the reality of the death after the funeral -- Saying hello to the new self you are becoming -- Saying goodbye -- Truth Two: You must make friends with the darkness before you can enter the light -- The dark night of the soul -- The so-called dark emotions -- Clean pain vs dirty pain -- The necessity of grief -- The darkness of liminal space -- The underworld of your grief -- The music of the night -- Wallowing in the darkness -- The light of empathy in the darkness -- The light of levity and humor in the darkness -- Entering the light -- Truth Three: You must go backward before you can go forward -- Going backward through ritual -- Going backward through memory -- Going backward as grieving children do -- Going backward to your beginnings -- Going backward to tell your story -- Going backward to heal old griefs -- Going backward to name your gratitude -- Going backward to begin anew -- Going forward in grief -- A Final Word -- Back Cover.