Front Cover -- Title Page -- Also by Alan Wolfelt -- About Companion Press -- Half Title -- Copyright -- Dedication -- Contents -- Introduction -- 100 Ideas -- 1. Understand what it means to be "traumatized" -- 2. First, seek safety and comfort -- 3. Understand the difference between grief and mourning -- 4. Understand that grief following trauma can be particularly difficult -- 5. Allow for numbness -- 6. Consider yourself in "emotional intensive care" -- 7. Inventory your losses -- 8. Be aware of the risks -- 9. Allow yourself a time of limbo -- 10. Stay in touch with your feelings -- 11. Understand the six needs of mourning: Need #1. Acknowledge the reality of what happened -- 12. Understand the six needs of mourning: Need #2. Let yourself feel the pain of your losses -- 13. Understand the six needs of mourning: Need #3. Participate in memorializing what was lost -- 14. Understand the six needs of mourning: Need #4. Develop a new self-identity -- 15. Understand the six needs of mourning: Need #5. Search for meaning -- 16. Understand the six needs of mourning: Need #6. Receive ongoing support from others -- 17. Be aware that your grief affects your body, heart, mind, social self, and spirit -- 18. Tell your story -- 19. Listen to the stories of others -- 20. Consider humankind's stories of disaster -- 21. Re-establish a routine -- 22. Embrace the uniqueness of your grief -- 23. Don't fall victim to the cliché that time alone heals all wounds -- 24. Let go of other destructive myths about grief and mourning -- 25. Make mourning a family affair -- 26. Understand the pressure cooker phenomenon -- 27. Limit your media exposure -- 28. If you're suffering from afar… -- 29. Understand that the disaster experience may compound pre-existing griefs and struggles -- 30. Take care of your body -- 31. Be honest with the children -- 32. Draw a "grief map".

33. Build on internal strengths -- 34. Get help with financial stresses -- 35. Look into EMDR therapy -- 36. Attend a ceremony -- 37. Make a call for help -- 38. Guard against scams -- 39. Schedule something that gives you pleasure each and every day -- 40. Remember the rule of thirds -- 41. Take it slow -- 42. If you feel afraid, find ways to feel safer -- 43. If you feel guilt, express it -- 44. If you feel anger, express it -- 45. If you feel sadness, express it -- 46. If you feel happiness, express it -- 47. Relinquish control… -- 48. …but take control of what you can -- 49. Learn to meditate -- 50. Create a memory book or box -- 51. Learn the science -- 52. Marvel at creation -- 53. Spend healing time in nature -- 54. Connect online -- 55. Make a silk purse out of a sow's ear -- 56. Save up for the next rainy day -- 57. Reassess your insurance -- 58. Leverage technology -- 59. Laugh -- 60. Cry -- 61. Practice breathing in and out -- 62. Accept that there may be no answers -- 63. Start (or renew) a daily spiritual practice -- 64. Sleep -- 65. Reach out and touch -- 66. Go to your happy place -- 67. Live in the now -- 68. Look into support groups -- 69. Seek the support of a counselor -- 70. Don't be caught off guard by "griefbursts" -- 71. Wear or display a symbol of your grief -- 72. Watch for warning signs -- 73. Make something with your own two hands -- 74. Pray -- 75. Be aware of "grief overload" -- 76. Say no -- 77. Go somewhere different -- 78. Learn something new -- 79. Advocate for someone else -- 80. Tell someone you love them -- 81. Turn to your family -- 82. Get a massage -- 83. Organize a tree planting -- 84. Look to those who model hope and healing -- 85. Give to the cause -- 86. Volunteer -- 87. Listen to the music -- 88. Reconsider where you want to live -- 89. Simplify your life -- 90. Prepare for another disaster.

91. Include children in planning for the future -- 92. Be mindful of anniversaries -- 93. Be patient with yourself -- 94. Count your blessings -- 95. Watch for signs of new life -- 96. Reassess your priorities -- 97. Consider the rest of your life -- 98. Understand the concept of "reconciliation" -- 99. Watch for signs of reconciliation -- 100. Strive to grow through grief -- A Final Word -- The Mourner's Code -- Back Cover.