Cover -- Title Page -- Copyright -- Contents -- Introduction -- 1. Mourn the Loss of Your Precious Baby -- 2. Know That Numbness If Natural -- 3. Understand the Six Needs of Mourning: -- Need #1. Acknowledge the Reality of the Death -- 4. Understand the Six Needs of Mourning: -- Need #2. Embrace the Pain of the Loss -- 5. Understand the Six Needs of Mourning: -- Need #3. Remember the Baby Who Died -- 6. Understand the Six Needs of Mourning: -- Need #4. Develop a New Self-Identity -- 7. Understand the Six Needs of Mourning: -- Need #5. Search for Meaning -- 8. Understand the Six Needs of Mourning: -- Need #6. Receive Ongoing Support From Others -- 9. Know There is No Order to Grief -- 10. If You Decided Not to See Your Baby after Birth, Find Other Ways to Acknowledge the Reality of the Death -- 11. Practice Self-Compassion -- 12. Be Compassionate with Your Partner -- 13. Be Loving toward Your Surviving Children -- 14. Release Your Tears -- 15. Designate a Time to Mourn Each Day -- 16. Acknowledge That You Are a Parent -- 17. Understand When Others Say, "I'm Sorry" -- 18. Just Be -- 19. Open Your Heart -- 20. Remember: One Day at a Time -- 21. Understand What It Means to Be "Traumatized" -- 22. Seek Safety and Comfort -- 23. Make an Inventory of Survival Strategies -- 24. Be Patient -- 25. Let Go of Destructive Myths about Grief and Mourning -- 26. Wear a Symbol of Mourning -- 27. Know There Are No Bad Days, Only "Necessary" Days -- 28. Reach out to Others Who Truly Understand Your Pain -- 29. Know That You Will Reach the Other Side of Grief -- 30. Believe in Your Capacity to Heal -- 31. Move toward Your Grief, Not Away From It -- 32. Acknowledge That You and Your Child Had a Relationship -- 33. Give Attention to Your Marriage -- 34. Expect to Have Whirlwind Emotions -- 35. Talk about Grief and Mourning -- 36. Be Tolerant of an Imperfect Funeral.

37. Acknowledge the Multitude of Losses -- 38. Watch for Warning Signals -- 39. Identify a Person You Can Count on -- 40. Set Boundaries -- 41. Prepare to Answer Uncomfortable Questions -- 42. Carry a Linking Object -- 43. Share Your Story -- 44. Use Language That Empowers You -- 45. Use Your Baby's Name -- 46. Talk to Your Baby -- 47. Redefine "Birthdays" -- 48. Be Aware of "Grief Overload" -- 49. If You Are Angry, Find Appropriate Ways to Express Your Anger -- 50. Leave Hurtful Advice behind -- 51. Find Ways to Move through Any Doubt and Guilt -- 52. Take Care of You! -- 53. Make Sleep a Priority -- 54. Honor What Your Body Needs -- 55. Create a Personal Sanctuary Just for You -- 56. Let Go of Tension with a Sign -- 57. Turn off the Negativity -- 58. Hold Someone -- 59. Remember, Rocks Crumble with Too Much Weight -- 60. Create Your Own Place to Keen or Wail -- 61. Find the Words in Music -- 62. Tell Someone You Love Her -- 63. Sing or Play a Lullaby -- 64. Know That It's Normal to Feel the Presence of Your Baby -- 65. Acknowledge When You Are Feeling "Lost" -- 66. Access Good Grief Support Online -- 67. Allow for Unfinished Business -- 68. Simplify -- 69. Prepare Yourself for the Holidays -- 70. Dream -- 71. Demonstrate Your Faith -- 72. Know That You Are a Good Parent -- 73. Ground Your Thoughts with a Touchstone -- 74. Communicate with Your Partner about Your Sex Life -- 75. Manage Your Fears about Future Pregnancies -- 76. Believe in the Power of Your Story -- 77. Create an Online Memorial -- 78. Publish Your Words -- 79. Plan a Ceremony -- 80. Write a Letter to Your Higher Power -- 81. Don't Be Caught off Guard by Griefbursts -- 82. Understand the Concept of Reconciliation -- 83. Think about What Comes Next -- 84. Move Your Grief to Gratitude with Yoga -- 85. Climb to New Heights -- 86. Bring in More Light -- 87. Relax with Aromatherapy.

88. Take in the Sun -- 89. Contemplate Life through the Arts -- 90. Contemplate the Universe -- 91. Allow Love in -- 92. Express Your Childlike Self -- 93. Know That It's Natural to Rethink Death -- 94. Talk to Someone about the Afterlife -- 95. Reunite and Reconnect -- 96. Remember Others Who Had a Relationship with Your Baby -- 97. Reconfigure Your Life -- 98. Be Purposeful in Everything You Do -- 99. Allow Yourself to Be "Thankful" When You Are Ready -- 100. Embrace Your Transformation -- A Final Word -- Resources -- The Mourner's Code.