COVER PAGE -- TITLE PAGE -- COPYRIGHT PAGE -- PREFACE -- ACKNOWLEDGMENTS -- CONTENTS -- FOREWORD -- A FEW NOTES ON THE TEXT -- 1: Two Stories, Two Games -- Strong Independence, Sweet Interdependence -- Mind Your Own Business -- Do as You Please! -- Talking Guns, Stalking Swords -- Different Playing Fields -- 2: Communication Equipment -- We Think, Therefore We Are -- A Question of Timing -- Basic and Optional Equipment -- Verbs that Give Up -- Close and Yet so Uneven -- Order of Play -- 3: Speak for Yourself, Listen to Others -- Call Me Dave -- Depends on Who -- Just Say Yes -- Have a Nice Day -- Greetings of Action, Greetings of Care -- Basic Strategies For Players of Speaker Talk -- Basic Strategies For Players of Listener Talk -- 4: Taking Care of Business -- Business is Business, Business is Family -- Customized versus Shared Work -- Individual Choice, Group Ensemble -- Team Stars, Borrowed Individuals -- Promises: Words on Paper, Sounds in the Air -- 5: Open for Business -- Talk about Talk -- Name Your Own Deal -- And that's Just the Beginning -- Silent Shifters -- Home Strategies at Away Games -- 6: Scoring Points -- It's My Deal: Present, Past, and Future -- It's Not Our Talk, It's an Example -- Hanashi: Then there's Another Story -- You Don't Know What You're Talking About -- 7: Support Network -- The Rhythm of Talk -- Different Rhythms -- What's so Funny? -- Taking Turns: The Ball Machine of Conversation -- 8: The Truth about Teasing, Praising, and Repeating -- What's in a Tease? -- Praised to Death -- Repeated and Parallel Truths -- Mismatch -- 9: Role Models: Working Man, Nurturing Mother -- Mothers, Working Women, Housewives -- Terms of Relationship -- When Difference isn't Worse -- When Difference is a Minority -- Mothering Bosses -- How it All Begins -- 10: You Are What You Speak -- In the Beginning.

Becoming American, Staying Japanese -- Mirror, Mirror -- Inside Out -- NOTES -- REFERENCES -- INDEX.