pt. I. Laying foundations. How problems develop : a frog story and a shift in perspective -- Are problems of disrespect inadvertently supported? -- Unraveling assumptions : educators' roles and students' behaviors -- Responding effectively to problems -- Being respectful and open to students' experiences -- Making changes last for more than a week -- pt. II. Applications and examples : success stories of overcoming bullying and disrespect. Listening to students' voices -- Cultivating respect, appreciation, and tolerance in the school -- Dealing with disrespect and bullying in the classroom : the bugging bug project -- Working with individual students around bullying : helping a child suffering from a "bullying spell" -- Brain and behaviors : how young people change and how educators can help -- pt. III. Prevention : scaffolding a complex and sound culture of respect. Creating a partnership with response-able youth -- Spotlight on stories of successful prevention.