Startup Life: Surviving and Thriving in a Relationship with an Entrepreneur -- Copyright -- Contents -- Preface -- Audience -- Overview of the Contents -- Additional Materials -- Acknowledgments -- Chapter One: Introduction -- Heteronormative Language and Partnerships -- Our Panel of Experts -- Chapter Two: Philosophy -- Communication -- Priorities -- Motivation -- Long-Term Relationship -- Time Commitment -- Uncertainty -- Persistence -- Happiness and the Power of Habits -- The 97 Percent: Choosing What to Care About -- Delegating -- Is a Relationship Part of Your Vision of a Good Life? -- What Do You Want Your Story to Be? -- Chapter Three: Communication -- Appointments -- Four Minutes in the Morning -- A Good-Morning and Good-Night Call -- Life Dinner -- Honesty and Respect -- Language, Tone, and Fairness -- Drama -- Anger Management -- Fighting Fair -- Conflict Avoidance -- Listen -- Geez, Do We Have to Talk about Our Relationship Again? -- Love Talk -- Professional Help -- Violence -- Chapter Four: Startup Company Life -- Startups Are Hard -- A Vision -- A Rhythm -- A Family -- Incorporating Your Partner -- Entrepreneurial Help -- Chapter Five: Personality -- Defining Initial Conditions -- Introvert versus Extrovert -- Intrinsic versus Extrinsic Motivation -- Need for Achievement versus Need for Independence -- Risk versus Safety -- Male versus Female -- Engineer versus Poet -- Rigid versus Resilient -- Problem Solving versus Empathy -- Optimist versus Pessimist -- Public versus Private -- Online versus Offline -- Moderation versus Maniac -- Short Term versus Long Term -- Chapter Six: Values -- Words versus Actions -- Alignment -- Children or Child-Free -- Humor -- Trust -- The Unforgivable -- You Can Have It All, Just Not at the Same Time -- Chapter Seven: Skills, Tactics, and Tools -- Communication 101 -- Talk in a Way that Can Be Heard.

Cosmo Quiz -- How to Renegotiate -- Life Dinner -- QX Vacation -- Mini-Break/Long Weekend/One Day -- The Phone -- The Computer -- The TV -- Silence -- Walks -- The Daily Hug, Kiss, "I Love You" -- Apology and Forgiveness -- If You Are Already in Trouble -- When to Seek Help -- Fun -- Chapter Eight: Common Issues and Conflicts -- Workaholic -- Time Management and Scheduling -- No Means No -- Travel -- Gender Differences -- Being On Time -- Getting Ready to Go -- Being Right or Being Happy -- Decision Making -- What Compatibility Really Means -- Cheerleader versus Critic -- Together and Separate -- His Shit, Her Shit, Your Shit Together -- Shit Happens-Now What? -- To Get Married or Not -- Anxiety and Depression -- Chapter Nine: Big Issues: Illness, Relationship Failure, and Divorce -- Serious Illness or Accident -- Failure-The Minimum Viable Relationship -- Before You Get Married -- Divorce -- Chapter Ten: Money -- Developing a Shared Frame of Reference -- What's the Money For? -- Early On: Not Having Enough -- Having Enough to Be Comfortable -- The First Big Exit -- Sleep-at-Night Money -- The Disorientation of Having Too Much -- Reactions from Your Family -- Investing -- Angel Investing -- Retirement -- Philanthropy -- Chapter Eleven: Children -- Start with a Commitment to Each Other's Dreams -- Raising the Baby -- Define Your Roles and Responsibilities Clearly -- Managing Your Kids -- Be Deliberate about Travel -- The Stay-at-Home Dad -- Chapter Twelve: Family -- Being Married to the CEO -- Working Together -- Living Where You Want to Live -- Go on Adventures between Companies -- Recognize that Life Is a Marathon, Not a Sprint -- Sibling Dynamics -- The Sandwich Generation -- Chapter Thirteen: Sex and Romance -- Communication around Sex -- The Work of Romance -- Goal Orientation -- Conflict around Sex -- Keeping the Magic Alive.

Chapter Fourteen: Enough -- Go Slow -- The 10 Percent Rule -- Do You Have to Be Frugal in Your Next Startup? -- How Much Is Enough? -- What Does Retirement Mean? -- Are You and Your Partner in Different Places? -- Practice, Practice, Practice -- Bibliography -- About the Authors -- Index -- Excerpt from Startup Communities -- Historical Frameworks -- The Boulder Thesis -- Led by Entrepreneurs -- Long-Term Commitment -- Foster a Philosophy of Inclusiveness -- Engage the Entire Entrepreneurial Stack.