Intro -- Cover Page -- Title Page -- Dedication -- Contents -- Chapter 1 The Growing World of Unfaithful Wives -- Women in the Dark -- Increasing Temptation -- Chapter 2 How to Predict Whether a Woman will have an Affair -- Chapter 3 The Differences Between Women's and Men's Affairs -- Love and Sex -- Guilt and Secrecy -- Why Women Like Monogamy and Men Don't: The Origin of Differences -- Chapter 4 The Groundbreakers: The New Unfaithful Women -- Chapter 5 The "Everything But" Affair -- You Can't go any Further -- No Touchy, no Feely -- It Just Disappeared -- Why Does it Happen and How Often? -- The Gender Differences -- The Effect on a Marriage -- Are Affairs Without Sex Really Possible? -- The Man you can't Forget -- Chapter 6 Situations That Drive Women into Affairs -- Disappointment -- I Feel Attractive Again -- He Sees me the Way I Want to See Myself -- A Declaration of Independence -- The Search for Self-Fulfillment -- The Midlife Crisis -- Revenge -- The Power Affair -- Proximity -- Delivering A Message -- A Way to the Top -- I Have Changed -- It's so Boring -- A Bridge out of the Marriage -- Chapter 7 Hidden Psychological Reasons for Affairs -- The Fear of Intimacy -- The She who's a Me -- The Borderline Syndrome Wife -- Psychological Collusions -- The Projecting Wife -- Triangle Lovers -- Black-and-White Thinkers -- High-Drama Wives -- The Hostile Pair -- Saints and Sinners -- The Compulsives -- Chapter 8 Passion and Ecstasy: Why They Ignite -- What's it Like With Someone Else? -- My Husband isn't Interested in Sex -- I am Turned Off -- Why Mates Lose Desire -- Hot Sex With a Lover -- Chapter 9 The Other Man -- What he is Like -- The Lover's Motivations -- Unattached Lovers -- What They Want -- Women Who Deny Reality -- Chapter 10 How Affairs Progress -- Time Together -- Where They Make Love -- The Stages of an Affair.

Part One: The Tease -- Part Two: Euphoria -- Part Three: Obsession, Conflict, and Agony -- Part Four: Making Peace -- Part Five: Endings -- Chapter 11 Out in the Open -- Fifteen Clues That can Give You Away -- What Else Clues Reveal -- Why Men React With so Much Fury -- Hidden Reasons When Husbands are Lenient -- Yearning to Tell All -- Should You Confess? -- When to Keep Your Mouth Shut -- Chapter 12 Is It True Love, Is It a Better Love? -- Mistakes Women Make -- What is True Love? -- What are His Wife's Gripes? -- What are Your Problems With Your Marriage? -- Bad Marriages, "Good" Affairs -- How Wives Unconsciously Create Their Own Unhappiness -- Chapter 13 Facing the Music -- What to do at First -- Next Steps -- Chapter 14 Going Forward as a Couple: Healing -- Chapter 15 Healing: The Final Phase -- Dealing With Special Problems -- Re-Creating Joy -- Chapter 16 Creating a New and Better Sex Life -- Make Your Marriage an Affair -- Chapter 17 For Tempted Women: Is an Affair for You? -- Acknowledgments -- Appendix How Much Do You Know About Female Infidelity? A Quiz -- Selected Bibliography -- Index -- Copyright Page.