Intro -- Table of Contents -- Foreword -- 01 -- The Parent Calling -- Developmental Psychology -- 02 -- Convergence of Sex and Gender -- Gender Research and Masculine Ideology -- Gender Identity -- 03 -- Role of the Father -- The Role of the Father for Sons -- The Role of the Father for Daughters -- 04 -- Roots of Gender Conflict -- The Beginning -- 05 -- The Trinity of Destruction: Abuse, Trauma, and Shame -- Type I and II Trauma -- 06 -- The Deepening of the Conflict -- Daytime Soap Operas -- Kindergarten -- Summer -- First Grade -- Revelation -- 07 -- Shame -- Physiological Components of Shame -- Psychological Components of Shame -- Male Shame Development -- 08 -- Bullying -- Gone -- The Trauma of Bullying -- The Impact of Bullying -- Bullying and Suicide -- 09 -- Toxic Shame -- 10 -- Complex Shame -- Flight, Fight, or Freeze -- 11 -- Finding the Rules -- The Boy Code -- The Man Rules -- 12 -- Society's Message -- Men in Romance Novels -- Men in Pornography -- The Man Rules and Women -- 13 -- Gender Conflict and Confusion -- Gender Identity Development -- 14 -- The Article-Proposed Origins of Gender Role, Identity Issues, and Homosexuality -- Sadness and Loneliness -- Fear and Mistrust -- Weak Masculine Identity -- Sexual Trauma in Childhood -- Excessive Responsibility -- Anger -- 15 -- Spirituality, Gender Conflict, and Shame -- 16 -- As the Conflict Deepens -- Reconciliation -- Marriage -- 17 -- Results of Gender Role Conflict, Shame and Complex Trauma -- Negative Consequences and Destructive Behaviors -- Emotional Consequences -- 18 -- 25 Tips -- 19 -- Finding Hope, Clarity, Healing and Change -- Hope -- Clarity -- Healing -- Change -- Conclusion -- Bibliography -- AUTHOR BIOGRAPHY.